i don’t have much of a memory from before 1st or 2nd grade really (6-7 years old). many of the details i know of my life before that come in the form of stories from various sources, who tend to offer unreliable and sometimes contradictory accounts. prior to my dad getting custody of me when i was about 6, i lived with my mom in the st. johns neighborhood of portland for about a year. my aunt has lived in st. johns for a few years now and i visit her fairly frequently. until recently, nothing really looked familiar to me, but i always sort of felt like something familiar could be right around the corner. and there it was, last february.
my partner and i were visiting and took a walk. on the way back, i tensed up as we approached and walked through these vines. the tension wasn’t attached to a specific memory, just the fact that i remembered anything at all.
things that i had previously remembered about the place/time:
1. watching cartoons at my neighbor’s house while my mom was away. the same neighbors my (step-)grandma said that my mom intended to give me away to. he-man and she-ra were often (once?) on in the morning.
2. one of my stuffed animals getting ruined in a bucket of oil.
3. a spider biting me between the eyes one night, which made my eyes swell up for a few days.
4. sleeping behind the couch on the floor in the living room when my mom got a boyfriend and i no longer slept in her bed.
5. my mom using the money from my piggy–actually, i think it was a multicolored froggy–bank to get us 4th of july fireworks.
6. and then the talk–my mom expressing regret but saying that she thought it would be best if i lived with my dad. i remember thinking she was right, no disagreement there. she acted real sorry and i probably acted real sorry too, but i was not. i was very well behaved in those days.
like that time she commented on how sweet i was behaving after church. we had stopped at the grocery store and i held my hands together pointer finger to pointer finger, thumbs rolled under, and fingers around, a stolen roll of lifesavers.
when i came back in august i decided that i wanted to remember more. to come up with my own, reliable, stories. at least i would locate what i knew in its proper place.
so, between my dad and i, we figured out the address of the shack my mother and i lived in that year. except the address and the shack no longer exist. instead, if this is right, the shack was torn down and this was built in its place:
and if that’s right. this is where i ate cereal and watched he-man in the morning while my mom was out (working?):
and this house was next door, facing our cross street:
and this was at the end of our street:
but how could i not remember such a landmark? i can’t say for sure that this was my street. but the address fits.
and then there is school. i was told that i was kicked out of catholic kindergarten. or i made it up. i really don’t know. but in my(?) version i accidentally flipped off a nun while doing sign language to “silent night.” sounds sort of plausible. and then i went somewhere else. was this one of my schools?
or this?
i don’t know. though during this (october) visit it occurs to me that it is most likely that this is one of them:
this park seems familiar.
especially the teeter totters.
oddly, this is the one thing i remember for certain. i can say without a doubt in my mind that this is where we bought fireworks that year: